My fiance´ (now husband – eek) and I recently took a trip to Denver, Colorado to elope. Big news, right?! We are officially married and it is wonderful. This was a couple of months ago so I am a little behind but I had newly married people things to do!
Because why not?!
We WILL be going back to Colorado. We were only there for a short weekend unfortunately but…downtown Denver is great. There are so many great places to eat and little shops to visit. We stayed at the Homewood Suites by Hilton in Denver – like 1 block from the downtown area which means we did lots of walking.
We went to a street fair – Taste of Denver – which just happened to be going on at the same time so we really got to see a lot in two days.
And if you ever make it there, you have to grab a drink at The Greedy Hamster!
Over the past year and a half, my husband and I had many discussions on what we wanted in a wedding, what we needed in a wedding and how we might make these two lists work together. In the end, we couldn’t make it work. Well, actually we chose not to make it work.
We have a lot going on in our lives right now. Work, travel, work-travel, family out of state, other family events, and our upcoming cross country move all meant that trying to plan a wedding was crazy stressful. So one night, over dinner, I asked my then fiance´ how he would feel about eloping and celebrating with friends and family after. Well, as I am sure you can guess, he was all about it. He told me to sleep on it though because he wanted to make sure it was what I wanted.
After sleeping on it, I was completely sure that was what I wanted. So we talked about it and decided to go with that. Once we made that decision, our stress levels dropped. We didn’t care about the big wedding, we just wanted to be married.
Eloping isn’t for everyone but it was perfect for us. I had read so many articles on why people eloped, what issues they had, how to tell your family, how their families reacted, etc. But even though I was nervous about the unknowns (we both were) we knew that it was really what we wanted to do. And if our families took it poorly, they would understand eventually. (In case you want to know, they took it just fine and understood that this decision was about us and not them)
We didn’t need all the fuss and attention a traditional wedding brings. There are two things we still want to do…wedding photos and a honeymoon. Having professional photos of the two of us in “wedding” attire was/is important to me so I have a wedding dress. You might be thinking “Seriously, you bought a wedding dress and aren’t getting married in it?” Yes – and I am not sorry at all because I am doing this for me. We booked a photographer and a location and will be getting Christmas Holiday couple photos taken and they will be lovely. P.s. It is still tons of fun wedding dress shopping and it was more fun once I didn’t have the stress of an actual wedding.
Overall, the expense of eloping (trip and photos after the fact) saved us/ will save us so much money. I know, it is not all about the money but we do not like to spend money on things we don’t even really want to do – does anybody really?.
When it comes to getting married do things the way you and your significant other want to do them. Yes, some people’s feelings might get hurt but in the end this should be a day that you are 100% happy with!